My thoughts about "Skinny-shaming" and "Fat-shaming."

Oh where do I start. Skinny-shaming and Fat-shaming is something I know I will see the second I log onto any social media. Whether it be Facebook, Twitter or, the one I see it on the most, Instagram body-shaming is a huge topic. My question is why? Why do we shame other people's bodies?

From the research I have done one main commonality between any body-shaming post I have seen seems to have a root of insecurity. Now, I may be wrong about that in some cases but most of them seem to be from peoples own insecurities about themselves and how they seem flawed to themselves.  Well all are insecure about something. Whether it is our weight, stretchmarks, wrinkles, freckles, being to pale, being to dark, etc. The list goes on and on. Now instead of us focusing on ourselves we seem to always take it out on others.

Lately I have been seeing so many memes that are telling women "Love your curves" or "Real men love curves. Bones are for the dogs." First of not all men are different some like women who are thin and some like women who are big. Yet, they are all still real men. Just like not all women are the same but they are all still real women. Regardless of size. We are all real human beings. 

As a curvier girl myself I have been teased or shamed many times about my body without them knowing at all about my health. It is usually something around the line of "oh your bmi is still too high that means you need to lose weight so your health doesn't get worse." Little does that person know my health is perfectly fine I have no health issues besides a pesky little cold right now. My doctor says everything is okay in there. On top of that I am losing weight. I have lost around 100lbs. However, I am doing it the healthy way through diet and exercise. What else does this person expect me to do? Starve myself? No thank you. I will pass.

Although, I have been teased and shamed I can not imagine "skinny-shaming" anyone or using their health as an excuse to bash them. Some of my best friends are super thin. Guess what? I don't notice that when I am hanging out with them and enjoying having them as my friends! They are my friends regardless of their size. They are still absolutely beautiful to me, from their hearts to their hips.

We as women (and men too) need to stop shaming others for our own issues with society. Yes there may be a few people who are big that skinny shame and a few people who are thin that fat shame but that doesn't mean every single person that fits into a certain category should be shamed for the way they look.

Blame the person who shamed you or blame society for fucking (sorry for the language) everyone over and turning everyone against one another. But, do not sit there and act like you are better for shaming a whole group of people because you are not any better than the person who shamed you at that point. Instead why don't we all, as a whole, try ending it together. Working together to end the shaming. I know that there will always be people who will shame others for being themselves but if more of stop shaming then those people will slowly disappear or look ridiculous for trying. Either way everyone then can start focusing on making themselves healthier mentally and physically while also feeling beautiful and loving themselves.

I hope you all think hard about this. I love you all.

XOXO- Bethany ♥